This will be my last wedding related post for a while ( I promise). But I thought you might enjoy seeing a few more behind the scenes pictures collected from iphones (along with a few professional shots) that have come in from Matt and Stina’s wedding. If you haven’t read up on the wedding events then you may want to skim these posts: The Rehearsal, The Wedding, The Reception, before scrolling through these extra snapshots.
Here they are:
Post-picture lunch/brunch break with family and bridal party:
Stina waiting for the guests to arrive watching them from the upstairs window and entertaining the flower girls:
Prayer time for Stina with all the bridesmaids and female relatives:
Time to line up for the wedding:
The ceremony (and singing):
Matt and Stina snapshots:
Details from the reception:
Thats all for now! Thanks for reading and sharing in this wonderful family event!!
I ended my last post with looking back on my brother’s wedding ceremony a month ago (to get caught up see: The Wedding). After the ceremony we left the Moseng house and headed to the Sons of Norway downtown Poulsbo. Luke and I carpooled with my in-laws and arrived quickly after most of the bridal party.
Everything looked wonderful just as we had set it up the night before (see The rehearsal). The head table was decorated with a full yellow table cloth and crocheted runner. Mason jars lined the head the table prepped for placing the bridesmaid bouquets in. The table was set with an eclectic collection of tea cups and blue glass plates.
Each yellow monogramed napkin was folded in it’s place. As we settled in I saw the MC/DJ was setting up by the favor table prepped with crates full of mini jars of spiced apple jam. People were beginning to fill into the guest tables and mingle looking at family pictures, signing the guest book, and writing adviced cards.
Guests began to line up for coffee punch in glass cups, hot coffee, or tea. Once drinks were served the line for the create-your-own snack at the trail mix bar grew quickly.
When all the guests arrived, the wraps, sandwiches and fruit salad were laid out and once again a food line began to form. Once the bride and groom had arrived the fun began. Sparkling Cider was poured for all guests as Stina’s father, her sister, and my brother’s Best Man Andy gave toasts. Following Matt and Stina had their first dance then Stina danced with her father and last my brother danced with my mother.
Then all married couples were asked on the dance floor. During a basic waltz the MC called out numbers if a couple had been married less than that number they were asked to leave the dance floor. Luke and I knew enjoyed our 45 second dance then twirled off when “one” was announced. The last remaining couple had been married more than 60 years and Stina gave them one of the bridal bouquets.
After this the traditional folk dancing began. All the Moseng siblings and their now spouses danced together. Then the Moseng parents joined in another couples dance. Last it was our turn.
Stina’s mother Lisa came to the mic to instruct us as all were welcomed on the dance floor to learn a few Norwegian folk dances. The first dance was basic, taught to the first graders but by the third or fourth dance the number of steps had increased dramatically. Although there were many mistakes and moments of confusion it was a great way to meet other wedding guests and share in the local and family culture. After trying to do a “Grand March” through the many people on the dance floor the folk dancing ended.
Stina and Matt of course also did the bouquet and garter toss. This was my first wedding other than my own to not be in line for the bouquet. One of my cousins got the garter at my wedding and this time his older brother got Stina’s.
The plates were then cleared and Matt and Stina went to cut the traditional European wedding cake. White cake with raspberry and bavarian cream filling was served alongside refills of coffee and tea. The dance floor was opened once again to classic slow dancing and swing music.
Slowly the non-relative members of the bridal disappeared to decorate the couple’s car. As dancing continued Stina and Matt talked with friends and family guests. Those who traveled from Oregon began to leave having a long day and a car ride to get home. My family wandered out to the terrace overlooking the waterfront on this beautiful sunny Washington day as Stina and Matt got ready to leave.
We all gathered outside in the parking lot prepped with bubbles to shower the newlyweds as they left for their honeymoon. When Matt and Stina arrived at his CRV we all pitched in to clear the windshield of Oreos, the sun visors from rice or glitter, the inside of the car from balloons filled with glitter (among many other things). Every window was covered with writing and of course there was a string of cans tied to the back bumper. After a little frustration trying to clean off the car they were off to catch a ferry ride to their hotel for the night.
Luke and I had a red eye flight to catch that evening back to New York so we took some time to say goodbye and thank you to the bridal party, Stina’s family, and then our own. We headed back to the hotel with Luke’s parents, changed and packed for the airport. Then we left for Seattle for one last night in Washington (see Little Norway and the Emerald City ).
August 3rd was a beautiful day and it was such a wonderful wedding. Every detail was noticed and appreciated. It takes a lot of work to pull all the the pieces together but with everyone working together the day went pretty smoothly. I was so glad Luke and I could be there to celebrate in such an important day in my brother’s life.
About a year ago when Luke and I considered who to be in our wedding we ran into a problem. The only little boys we knew who were old enough to be ring bearers lived out of state or would not be able to come to the wedding. We didn’t want to put pressure on our out-of-state friends and family who had little boys, some of whom already had wedding responsibilities. So to make planning less complicated, we decided to forgo the idea of a ring bearer at all!
Instead we chose Makayla , a close friend of the family, to be our flower girl and bear both job titles and responsibilities.
Makayla is the most intelligent, mature, and fun girl I’ve ever been around. Back in California, the two of us had girl nights watching disney movies, making cupcakes or pizza, and talking all evening.
When I asked Makayla to be my flower girl it seemed the adults were more excited then her about the idea, but she said yes. So we took her to a store that specialized in formal children’s wear. You could tell she was beginning to warm up to the idea of being a flower girl when she started putting on pretty dresses. Finally Makayla tried on a dress that she didn’t want to change out of. She obviously felt like a very important princess in it. With no hesitation we bought her the dress knowing she was now ready and comfortable with being the flower-girl.
The day of my wedding Makayla patiently sat as her mom did intricate braiding of her hair. I was close by also having my hair done.
When wedding time came, Makayla took on her role like a pro. Dropping flowers from her basket, she went down the aisle with a smile. But her job as a ring bearer meant she also carried in her basket a wooden box my dad made with our wedding rings in it.
At the end of the aisle she carefully handed the wood box to the best man and walked over to sit with her parents. It all worked out perfectly.
So Thank You Makayla for being an amazing flower girl and being a big part of our special wedding day!!
The people in your bridal party are there to support you, help you prepare for and celebrate in your marriage. Too often though bridal parties cause conflict, drama, and stress for the engaged couple. It all comes down to who you choose to be in your bridal party. (And when I say bridal party I am speaking bridesmaids and groomsmen!)
Here are 3 things you should know:
1a Know your expectations
Planning a wedding puts the bridal party and the future bride/ groom under a lot of pressure. Before choosing your bridal party, consider who is up for the challenge. Only you know what responsibilities and expectations you hope to delegate to your party. Ask yourself:
Do I want them to help with the invitations? Dress shopping? Registry?
What type of “day of” events do I hope they will take care of?
Do I want them to help organize my schedule?
I would suggest not having more than a few (1/2 ) bridesmaids/groomsmen that live far away. This is especially true for bridesmaids. You need some people less than 4/6 hours away to help plan a bridal shower and be available to meet with you face-to-face.
Still do not dismiss your out-of-staters. Know when they can come into town for the wedding and let them help the week-of. Delegate things to them you know they can do long distance or that you won’t need until the week-of. They want to help even if they are not close.
1b Know your values
I have heard several couples less than five years into their marriage share they are no longer in contact with their bridal party. If you are a young couple, you have a lot of change down the road: moves, careers, children, all of this can cause separation from those you are close to when you get married.
So think about:
– In 10 years will I still be in contact with my wedding party? Will that matter to me?
-Is it important that my future kids know who they are/or that they are involved in their lives?
-Why do I want them standing next to me at the wedding and in my family pictures?
It may be old fashion, but I see the bridal party as literally standing with you in agreement of your marriage. They are the people who I can go to or them to me as accountability to the promise I made on my wedding day. I want my future children to either know who they are or I will be able to quickly tell them their importance in my life.
I would encourage you to include family in your bridal party. Even if you move far away, they will be around for holidays. There is a guarantee you children will know their aunts, uncles, your cousins etc. Also, if they grew up with you, they know your values, and expectations pretty well.
2. Know their personalities and character
A lot of problems and drama occur because the bride or groom do not want to hurt someone’s feelings by not choosing them to be in the wedding. But often friendships end after a wedding because of bridesmaid/groomsmen conflicts. You want people who are truly responsible and capable of being there for you in this important and stressful time.
So mull over this:
-Are they encouragers/can they tell when I need help or a break?
-Are they trustworthy/reliable/dependable/on time?
-Will they be respectful of my family and work well with the other bridal party members? (AKA Would grandma like them?)
-Are they apt to push their wants on my wedding? Or be impolite in expressing their dislike for my plans?
It is a privilege to be asked to participate in planning and/or being in someone’s wedding. The person has probably earned a special place in your life, gained your trust and respect. If you choose someone who is unreliable, disrespectful, or inappropriate then you will find yourself with unnecessary drama instead of encouraging help.
3.Know their experience and talents
Even if the people you are considering for your bridal party understand your expectations, are mature, and willing to help they may not know what to do. Once again, if you are a young couple then it is likely that your peers are not married, have not been in a lot of weddings, and very possibly have not been to many weddings. You may be surprised how many people don’t know what is included in wedding planning, or typical groomsmen/bridesmaid responsibilities.
-Have they ever been in a wedding before? Have they been to a wedding before?
(If no then ask: are they quick learners?)
-Are they creative and independent?
-Are they flexible and organized?
I would highly suggest choosing at least one married matron of honor/bridesmaid. Having one or two people in your wedding party who have “been there done that” is helpful. They have perspective, experience, and can help you prioritize. They will know what you are going through and are less apt to project their thoughts on your wedding.
Answer these questions honestly. Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in planning for the wedding and choose people who are strong in your areas of weakness. But be realistic, no one is perfect. Consider these questions and suggestions and you will be on your way to building a strong support team!
I choice to take a mini-spring-break from blogging because I haven’t felt much like writing about our real-life stuff right now. Were are in the middle of some car drama and I’m in the up’s and downs of job searching. (And yes I’ll share that all with you . . . eventually).
But let’s change topics shall we?
A week ago when I was in the middle of a hectic run-around I received a very anticipated phone call. So I pulled my Walmart grocery cart to a traffic free zone and answering my phone. It was my brother sharing the good news that he and his girlfriend had just gotten engaged! Everyone knew it would happen very soon and we are all thrilled.
Thinking about their wedding plans I began to look back on some of the details of my own wedding almost 6 months ago. I didn’t pintrest my way through my engagement or blog it out. But knowing at least 8 (probably closer to 10) couples who got engaged so far this year I thought: maybe I should take sometime to share advice and details from my wedding? Maybe it will spark some creativity for those planning their weddings?
As we head into this wedding season I’ll be dispersing some details and advice blogs from a bride who has been there done that. (I think 6 months is long enough to reflect back but not so long ago that I’ve forgotten the little things.)
So for all of my engaged couples-enjoy! And for my single friends these blogs may be good to ear-mark for that future special day down the road. Or if you are not one of those single “one day, day-dreamer” types remember you’ll probably be involved in a friend or family member’s wedding in the next 5 years. Even if you were at my wedding you may be surprised by some of the sentimental small details you probably didn’t know about.
Here are some topics to look forward to:
Who to choose for the bridal party?
Special Guests: how to care for kids, grandparents, and those with allergies
4 month engagement- a timeline and some big helps
Favors from friends :a great way to $ave
The Sentimental Personal details
No ring bearer? No problem
Things to double check with DJ/MC/Video/photographer
Advice for the Bride on her big day
Tips for Bridal Party including: when planning a bridal shower/ Bachelor(ette) party
Invitations, Thank you cards, and Gratuity
And that is not all! (Yes I went on a brainstorming craze). What do you think? And don’t worry tons of pics from my wedding and updates on the bro’s wedding plans will be shared along the way!